10 December, 2016

Problems About Being Biracial and Mixed-Race

I wanted to discuss the truth about being biracial with personal experience. The reason to this specific topic is the past and growing issues biracial or mixed humans like myself go through. Also I don't find much dedicated for the problems mixed people face in their lives. This is especially when I don't find much for my quite unique mix and adoptive background.

I read all the time about non-Whites being adopted by White families. It has interested me about their experiences, but no one ever mentions people like my mother, sister and myself being adopted by an African American/Native American family. Although I shared some of my experience, I wanted to discuss this again due to recent growing racial tensions and it's not talked about much.

From the past few months, I have been extensively studying about my real family's true heritage. I started a board on Pinterest to learn more about my family's background: My Ancestry 1

I also created this board to separate my findings. I pin a lot about India due to the Roma/Romani/Gypsy people descending from India: My Ancestry 2

Obviously I am biracial and multicultural. It can be difficult dealing with people who are strongly against mixing races. I haven't heard anything from people of Middle Eastern descent because most people are unaware I am Middle Eastern. I know I have ran across many posts wondering why Arabs don't identify with their race. I have been hiding it to avoid even more racism. I only identify myself as a light skinned African American with blonde hair, like my mother and sister identifies themselves. For years, I really thought I was African American and Native American from what I was told. Anyway, I have came across those who believe it's betraying your race for being biracial.

Because of my bright blonde hair and pale skin, and also appearance, many assume I'm White. That is only when my hair is Blonde though. When this happens, often people get disgusted and give me and my family lectures about me being half White. Even my sister for years thought I was White, and even the adoptive family assumed this as well. I was subjected to so many racist name calling because many times I'm White passing, and my adoptive family is strongly against race mixing, especially with Whites. It can be really hard when you look White around African Americans and Native Americans. My hair style, colour and texture plays a huge role in how I look. I will further discuss this in another post.

As you can imagine, it's hard connecting with your races when your physical appearance doesn't match. I find the hardest race to connect with is my Asian Filipino culture. Yes, Filipinos are in fact Asian. Often Asians don't accept you if you are not 100% Asian or you do not look Asian. However, many Filipinos do not actually look Asian themselves. From many stories of what I read, also Middle Eastern descent people can have the same views about race mixing as most Europeans. They often reject biracial people. I'm introverted, which spares me of most criticism. However, I can't avoid all criticism. These negative comments and jokes about mixed people is offensive. It can be difficult living as a mixed person for the following reasons:

  1. Everyone treating you like you are not a human or you are less of a human. 
  2. When people asks your ethnicity all the time, and especially when they don't believe you when you tell them.
  3. People guessing your race and almost always guessing it wrong (I hate it when people don't ask me first, but they just assume I'm whatever race they think I am). 
  4. Feeling as though you can't fit in with any of your ethnic backgrounds. 
  5. When people of your own race rejects you.
  6. Having an accent but unable to speak a different language. 
  7. People who are against race mixing. 
  8. People always assume you were adopted. 
  9. When family members don't look related.
  10. Being excluded out of everything because you're only half. 
  11. Not knowing about your racial backgrounds.
  12. People who mistake you for Hispanic or any other race. 
  13. Being considered exotic.
  14. People who don't like you because one of your races (i.e. I've came across people who discriminated against me because they dislike Turkish people, Arabs, Indians or Russians).
  15. Being considered a mutt or a half-breed. Also, any other name people come up with.
It can be strange, but I notice my family have accents. I wonder if others have unexplained accents without knowing another language. This was way before my family began studying languages. The accents change from Arabic type accent, Turkish, Russian, Indian and at times German. 

There are a lot of things us mixed people go through. This is just a bit more insight of how difficult it can be being adopted and plus being mixed. I just feel we should not be treated like only half a human. We deserve the same respect as purebred people; it isn't like we chose to be mixed. 

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